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May 2022

In the book of Ecclesiastes chapter 3 we read “A time for all seasons.” The Bible text goes on to describe many of the situations that will occur in our lives that will affect how we view the world, our lives and our response to a given situation. I have used this text many times in funerals, but I have also used it in weddings and other important gatherings.

It reminds us that life is dynamic. Every time I read the text, it reminds me how complex our lives are. You never know what “season” a person is going through (unless they elect to tell you), and we almost always assume whomever we are talking to is going through the same “season” we are in, and that is almost always wrong. This is one more example of how narcissism is becoming the norm in our society today.

Many of the communication issues we experience today stem from assuming the person we are talking to is either in our same season or at least understands where we are, and that’s often not the case. Time and time again I have seen people frustrated with someone else because of this.

Let’s take the pandemic lockdown as an example. Some people were extremely stressed by the change, and others found it restful. It seemed to depend on whether you were an extrovert or an introvert, but that is certainly simplifying it greatly. The point is this, I found the mandated isolation associated with the lockdown, well, awesome. If I wasn’t careful about how I approached that situation, I was likely to hurt the feelings of someone who was struggling with the same lockdown scenario by making them feel like I didn’t care about them or how they were dealing with the pandemic. We were both in the same situation but it was a different “season” for each of us.

As individuals we experience the same event in unique ways. As a church family we are all going through the same events here at FCC, but remember that you may or may not be experiencing them the same as the person next to you.

Take a minute to read Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, and then sit quietly for a bit and really think about it.


Cliff Caton